Becoming a Man

Becoming a Man The Critically And Popularly Acclaimed Coming Of Age Coming Out Story From The Author Of Borrowed Time An AIDS Memoir Witty As It Is Anguished And As Full Of Understanding As Of Anger, This Is Monette S Best Book Booklist I came out at 17 I came out when I fell for a man 11 years my senior I fell for a man who, in relation to me, was in a position of authority It was one of the luckiest things to have ever happened to me in my entire life There are many who will read this and self righteously pronounce it to have been damaging How very wrong they would be Damaging is what my life would have been like if I had not met this man That life is the life that Paul Monette has written about in this book A life of I came out at 17 I came out when I fell for a man 11 years my senior I fell for a man who, in relation to me, was in a position of authority It was one of the luckiest things to have ever happened to me in my entire life There are many who will read this and self righteously pronounce it to have been damaging How very wrong they would be Damaging is what my life would have been like if I had not met this man That life is the life that Paul Monette has written about in this book A life of self loathing encounters with gay men as equally filled with self hate, a constant battle to suffocate yourself, to turn yourself to ice For those who have not experienced it, it i
To say that I love this book would be a pathetic understatement.I do not rank myself among lovers of memoirs, and here I am, having finished my next non fiction book by Paul Monette, and desperately trying to find the right words that could do justice to Monette s life and his amazing personality.In Becoming a man Paul Monette told a life story of growing up, coming out, finding himself It s a long painful process, full of fears, angst, shame, suffering from low self esteem, self hatred,doubts To say that I love this book would be a pathetic understatement.I do not rank myself among lovers of memoirs, and here I am, having finished my next non fiction book by Paul Monette, and desp
There are not enough stars for this book.I don t even know if I can ever review this meaningfully and fully capture my reading experience This book won the National Book Award for 1992 and I am not surprised because it is simply amazing but also deeply haunting and painful This is one story, a true story that will stay with me for the rest of my life.This isthan a coming out story, it is indeed a life story or half a life story as the author describes it and I am grateful that the author There are not enough stars for this book.I don t even know if I can ever
Becoming a Man Half a Life Story was Paul Monette s response to readers of his first memoir, Borrowed Time, who wanted to know how he and his partner Roger got together and fell in love in the first place Here, Monette examines his childhood, his realization that he was gay, and his first furtive attempts to do something about it, eventually leading to his finding true love at the age of 26 Monette seems to feel that 26 is a really long time to wait for true love some of us would beg to diff Becoming a Man Half a Life Story was Paul Monette s response to readers of his first memoir, Borrowed Time, who wanted to know how he and his partner Roger got together and fell in love in the first place Here, Monette examines his childhood, his realization that he was gay, and his first furtive attempts to do something about it, ev
This is one of those books that I went in wanting to like Resurrecting texts from former classes, hellbent on actually reading the books that I was introduced to during my 4 years at college, I picked this one off the shelf, remembering some of the discussions we had about it in my Gay and Lesbian Lit Class Monette s story started out a bit dry, but I figured that he had to set the stage before he could really get into it his feelings, his experiences Unfortunately that passionate jolt n This is one of those books that I went in wanting to like Resurrecting texts from former classes, hellbent on actually reading the books that I was introduced to during my 4 years at college, I picked this one off the shelf, remembering some of the discussions we had about it in my Gay and Lesbian Lit Class Monette s story started out a bit dry, but I figured that he had to set the stage before he could
Thus in my own crippled way I had no choice but to keep on looking in the wrong places for the thing I d never even seen two men in love and laughing For that was the image in my head, though I d never read it in any book or seen it in any movie I d fashioned it out of bits of dreams and the hurt that went with pining after straight men Everything told me it couldn t exist, especially the media code of invisibility, where queers were spoken of only in the context of molesting Boy Scouts Yet Thus in my own crippled way I had no choice but to keep on looking in the wrong places for the thing I d never even seen two men in love and laughing For that was the image in my head, though I d never read it in any book or seen it in any movie I d fashioned it out of bits of dreams and the hurt that went with pining after straight men Everything told me it couldn t exist, especially the media code of invisibility, where queers were spoken of only in the context of molesting Boy Scouts Yet the vision of the laughing men dogged me and wouldn t be shaken,insistent with every lonely month, ev
My god, this one hit me where I live I picked it up completely at random, without realizing that it was a memoir about being deep in the closet and deeply depressed at Yale It feels wrong to describe a book this raw as beautiful, but it truly was I kept thinking, while reading this book, of a passage I read once but have not been able to find again Sedgwick Butler I know I ll paraphrase it badly, but it was something to the effect of the pain of coming out to ourselves, evenso My god, this one hit me where I live I picked it up completely at random, without realizing that it was a memoir about being deep in the closet and deeply depressed at Yale It feels wrong to describe a book this raw as beautiful, but it truly was I kept thinking, while reading this book, of a passage I read once but have not been able to find again
This is the first work of non fiction I have read since I began writing my novel just over five months ago Since my novel is about a gay man in his late teens I have focused most of my recreational reading on other works of fiction where the protagonist is gay and or coming of age I chose to read Paul Monette s 1992 agonizing, painful yet beautiful memoir which won the National Book Award for non fiction because it is not only an important piece of 20th century literature but also one of the m This is the first work of non fiction I have read since I began writing my novel just over five months ago Since my novel is about a gay man in his late teens I have focused most of my recreational reading on other works of fiction where the protagonist is gay and or coming of age I chose to read Paul Monette s 1992 agonizing, painful yet beautiful memoir which won the National Book Award for non fiction because it is not only an important piece of 20th century literature but also one of the most significant books of all time by a gay author.Monette who died from AIDS in 1995 struggled for the first 30 years of his life accepting his hom
First published in 1992 and yet, here in 2015, in a small town at the bottom of the world, I read the words of Paul Monette and am in shocked awe of how much I see my own life in his I think if I read this at an earlier age I would have thrown the book aside or dismissed it completely obviously still in doubt about my own guilt But now, at 33, I m glad to have come across it and read it The impact of his words are so real it actually hurt to read them But then, I guess, that is the reality First published in 1992 and yet, here in 2015, in a small town at the bottom of the world, I read the words of Paul Monette and am in shocked awe of how much I see my own life in his I think if I read this at an earlier age I would have thrown the book aside or dismissed it completely obviously still in doubt about my own guilt But now, at 33, I m glad to have come across it and read it The impact of his words are so real it actually hurt to read them But then, I guess, that is the reality of it That when shit is real, it hurts The writing is beautiful and tragic and revealing and vulnerable I ve highlighted so many passages in this book that most pages are pink I can t believe it myself sometimes, how fresh the wounds of the deep past sting, how
When you finally come out, there s a pain that stops, and you know it will never hurt like that again, no matter how much you lose or how bad you die.Paul Monette s Becoming a Man is the first memoir I ve read about being in the closet, and I have to say, it sets the bar pretty high Reading this, I felt such a resonant sense of kinship with Monette and his pain He s so intimate with the reader, sharing all of his most painful and revelatory moments from childhood up to coming out as gay and fa When you finally come out, there s a pain that stops, and you know it will never hurt like that again, no matter how much you lose or how bad you die.Paul Monette s Becoming a Man is the first memoir I ve read about being in the closet, and I have to say, it sets the bar pretty high Reading this, I felt such a resonant sense of kinship with Monette and his pain He s so intimate with the reader, sharing all of his most painful and revelatory moments from childhood up to coming out as gay and falling for his life partner in his 20s He s not afraid, at least not any, to admit to all his weaknesses and struggles, his doubts and self hatred He lets us see the beautiful and the ugly, all of it It s ultimately an extended Bildungsroman coming of age tale , as the title suggests, and I AM WEAK I love comings of age What can I say.In a folie a deux it s alw

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  • Paperback
  • 278 pages
  • Becoming a Man
  • Paul Monette
  • English
  • 03 May 2018
  • 0062507249